How do we heal?
Have you ever been hurt? Most of us can say that at some point in our lives, we were really hurt. This hurt can harm us in a number of ways. For instance, the hurt can cause us to become disgusted, aggravated, or even angry at the person causing the hurt. Often, we do not recognize the anger, among other emotions, because we may repress or deny it.
However, disgust, aggravation, or anger may cause three big things to happen to us. We will sum up those items under the word anger. The anger may keep us in our hurt.
Anger can also cause us to justify an attitude. The attitude may be seeking revenge, wanting to retreat, etc., and it may cause us to become numb. Numbness is safe because when we are numb, no one can hurt us. Third, we may turn the anger upon ourselves, and anger turned inward causes depression. We may want to turn the anger onto ourselves because if we let go of the anger, there may be no stopping of what we might do.
Therefore, anger is the driving force that causes one or more of the above categories. And the solution is to forgive those who have hurt us. "But why?" you may ask. We forgive the anger because it is the driving force that keeps our hurt alive, causes us to develop an attitude, or even causes us to become depressed.
Forgiveness is extremely hard to do at times. However, remember that the easy things we do really don't build character. It takes a lot of forgiveness to let go. However, when we work on forgiveness, the above-mentioned items may begin to dissolve, and we can begin the process of healing.