OCIETY is a game which all men play. "Etiquette" is the name given therules of the game. If you play it well, you win. If you play it ill, you lose.The prize is a certain sort of happiness without which no human being isever quite satisfied.Because the demand for social happiness is thus fundamental in human na-ture, the game has to be played quite seriously. If played seriously, it is per-force successful, even when the outward signs of triumph are lacking. Playedseriously, it becomes a worthy part of the great enterprise of noble living, thescience of which is called "Ethics." Therefore the best etiquette is that whichis based upon the fundamental principles of ethics.The etiquette, as well as the ethics, of to-day may well be summed up in theone maxim known as the "Golden Rule" "Do unto others as you wouldthat others should do unto you." Or in the philosophic statement of it, givenby Kant: "Act so that the maxim of thy conduct shall be fit to be universallaw."3 EDITH B. (EDITH BERTHA) ORDWAYA certain social sense is, therefore, the foundation upon which all concertedaction rests; and this, permeating the character and winning conformity inthe life, produces a social order which is at once the criterion of civilizationand the source of its power.Every social code presupposes the trained personality, that is, the individualwho is intelligent enough and controlled enough to conform to the rulesprescribed for the good of all. It is only in the common good that true indi-vidual good can be found. Therefore is it so essential that every man regardhis brother's welfare as anxiously as his own, and permit himself to be curbedin his extravagances, limited in the indulgence of even legitimate desires, inorder that he may not defraud another, or menace the general well-being.Not only in social life, but in business, politics, and international relations, this principle of the common good as the ultimate goal, the supreme author-ity for conduct, holds good. To it society approaches, now by direct progressand now by seeming reaction, but ever with a higher evaluation of justice.This is shown in the fulfillment of both small and large obligations.Following the rules of courtesy, men give to each other that deference whicheach believes is his own due, and each receives in return twofold the defer-ence that he sincerely gives. Men show, at home and abroad, the courtesyto women in general that they would wish shown to those of their family, and thereby the standard of respect for woman is so lifted that even the citystreet at night is a safe place for a woman to pass unaccosted, if it is necessaryfor her to go unattended.Rigidly do we hold ourselves to the established rules of good breeding, en-deavoring to make of ourselves all that Nature will permit; and we are sur-prised to find that Nature's own gentlemen and gentlewomen gather aboutus, and rare souls look to us for companionship, as finding in us kindred