Negatively minded people are always on an uphill struggle, even when things go well they always look for a point when it might stop and then what. Whereas positively minded people see the bright side of everything, and when something stops another good thing starts and so it goes on. We need to take life lessons and understand that we must never ever ask advice from anyone who has an aspiration less than our own otherwise the response will be filled with their own fears, ignorance, insecurities and on-going doom. Only mix with people who are going to enhance your life and that includes family and never accept traditional stupid cultures and religions that take advantage of you because it is what has happened in the past, that's selfish, barbaric and lacks love. There is no place for negativity in your life.