"Where are all the guys? Where did they all go? If you and your friends are anything like the other young Christian women I know, your chief complaint has to do with the paucity of guys. And then, when you are looking at the handful of guys who do hang around in your church community, you think to yourself, as the saying goes, 'The odds may be good, but the goods are odd.' Heterosexual relationships are always cross-cultural, bilingual situations. You come from different worlds. He's a guy. They do things differently over there." from the bookDouglas Wilson offers the simple, direct advice he's been giving young women for decades on how to notice and attract the right kind of man. You shouldn't feel ashamed about wanting a guy who is strong and capable of leading you. In fact, you should want someone who has the backbone to lovingly take charge even when you don't want to be led. Beyond that, it's best not to overcomplicate things. Guard your heart, keep your imagination under control ("I always thought I would marry someone who..."), and trust that God will take care of everything else.