Friendship. Everyone hopes to have at least one good one. Some think they do but after a closer look, they may find out that they don't. Or that maybe they themselves have not been the friend they thought they were. Here is a guide that may help you to "assess your situations." Here you can take a closer look at your friendships. Do you have a real friend? Are you a real friend? Mary Douglas-Witherspoon is the fifth of eight siblings, a widowed mother of one son and three grandchildren. She was born and raised in Niagara Falls, NY and lived in New York City for several years. She retired after 30 years of working as a police dispatcher for the Niagara Falls, NY Police Department. She is a gospel singer who has sung across the United States meeting all types of people from various backgrounds and cultures. She's passionate about friendships and developing good relationships in general. Mary says, "Hold hands with someone, it just feels better."